Thoughts about Virginity

"I am a 21 year old virgin. I used to think that virginity was not a huge deal... especially if you were engaged in a monogamous relationship. I have come to realize that virginity is sacred... and it is a rare thing to possess in the world today. There is nothing wrong with waiting until you are absolutely 100% ready to handle the responsibility. I am not a prudish person... I just have standards that I will not cross over."
Female, 21

" I have always thought that when you meet someone special, you're supposed to feel it, and I've never really felt it for anybody. It just seems that giving THAT part of yourself to a person is like letting them have you entirely. And when somebody has me entirely, I don't want to have any doubts about them. I want to feel really good about the decision. Sex is built up to be pretty important in our society but I don't think I'm afraid of it. In fact, I'm probably more curious about it than anything."
Female, 19

" As a heterosexual male in my early 20's, I have not yet experienced the act of sexual intercourse. Some may say I am still a virgin. I personally have trouble with the term virgin because the line between virgins and non-virgins isn't as black and white as society makes it out to be. Being a virgin doesn't make one 'pure'. There are many ways that partners can express physical attraction without the act of vaginal or anal intercourse. Simply put, there are many other sexual activities other than your standard 'push-n-pull sex'. And just because a couple doesn't choose to have sexual intercourse doesn't mean they can't get pregnant or contract an STD. So what does it really mean to be a virgin then? For me, the term virginity should refer to the decision not to engage in any type of sexual activity. "
Male, 21

”Many people claim even after oral sex or close sexual encounters that they're still on the “V-team.” Others say they're totally not virgins. Is virginity lost only after vaginal intercourse? A virgin is by definition a person who has not experienced sexual intercourse. Then what about homosexuals? Does that mean they're virgins forever? Who can say? YOU define virginity. You make virginity what it means to yourself. No one can tell you what virginity means.

The media glamourizes sex but rarely does it show the potential risks, including pregnancy, STIs, HIV, and emotional outcomes associated to sexual activity. So how do you know when you are ready? There's no real set time, date, location or emotion. It's a hard decision… one that should be given some time to think about. Ask yourself, "Am I scared? Do I trust my partner? Can we talk about sex easily? Do we both want the same things out of sex? Am I doing this for myself or am I being influenced by something else?" If you think you're ready for sex, then by all means go ahead. But make sure you're making a good decision for yourself. “
Male 18

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