Before you decide to have sex, it’s important to be aware of the risks involved, so you can make the decision that’s right for you. Probably at the top for your mind are the physical risks, which include getting STIs, HIV, and becoming pregnant. This section will cover a lot of that information.

Of course, there are also emotional risks, such as guilt, regret or shame – don’t forget that you can also feel happy and content. Visit our “Are You Ready?” section to learn about what you might be getting into emotionally.

Remember, no matter the risk, communication is usually important in harm reduction:

Talk the Talk
Talking to a boyfriend or girlfriend about safer sex can be difficult and embarrassing. Often, the person who brings up the topic can feel like they are admitting that they have an STI (Sexually Transmitted Infection), or that they sleep around. This is not true!!! Talking about sex does not mean that you are having sex and talking about safer sex does not mean you have an STI. It means you are playing it smart!

Here are some tips for bringing up the issue of safer sex with a potential partner:

• Consider your own thoughts about sex. How do you feel about it? What do you want?
• Find out what your potential partner thinks about safer sex before you decide to be sexual.
• Start a casual conversation about sex: "I saw a TV special on STIs and it made me nervous. What do you think...?"
• Ask your boyfriend/girlfriend: "What do you think about condoms?"
• Try not to preach or judge. This may make a person less able to talk openly and honestly.

Remember that talking about STIs does not mean you don't trust your partner. You're not blaming or assuming your partner has a disease. Talking about it protects you both.

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