Masturbation

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Masturbation from Guys' perspective
Masturbation from Girl' perspective

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Is it okay to Do it yourself (masterbate)? Is it bad for my health? How often can I do it?

Masturbation is a normal and healthy way to get to know your body and experience sexual pleasure. There are no rules about how often to masturbate: whatever feels right for you is okay so long as masturbating is not getting it the way of your other activities.

Is it possible to not feel very much if i masturbate? Does it take both mind and body to be sexually aroused?

Although the brain is not part of our reproductive system, it is arguably the most important sexual organ we have. The brain is what creates our thoughts and digests the images that arouse us...Especially during masturbation when there is no one but yourself to turn you on.

There are many reasons why you might not feel much of anything when you try to become aroused and masturbate. If you are tired, sick, stressed, anxious, or have consumed alcohol or certain drugs (prescription or otherwise), you could just not feel sexual or your body may not respond as quickly as you'd like. You might also just have other things on your mind, and not be able to think about sex.

This happens to almost everyone at some point, and most people find that it will eventually pass. Keep in mind that everyone's sex drive and brain is different, so pay attention to how you feel and how your body responds. If you're still worried about your sexual arousal, you may want to talk to the nurses at a Youth Clinic.

I've masturbated since I was twelve. But now, even though I'm horny, I can't get a good orgasm because I've tried all the ways that I can think of. What are some ways that you can masturbate with amazing results? Can you give me some techniques for masturbating?

Masturbation is a great way for people of all ages to get to know their body better and to make their sexual needs. Your ability to make yourself feel good through masturbating is not affected by the age at which you start. As everyone and their body are unique, what feels sexually pleasurable is unique. Masturbating provides opportunity to find out what "turns you on" and explore the ways you like to be touched sexually.

Reflecting on our experiences is a great way to learn about life. This is also true when it comes to masturbation. It sounds like you've already tried many different ways of masturbating and may have some ideas about what stimulates your body. It sounds like you're looking for ways that best stimulate your body. Some things you may want to think about including: stimulating different parts of the body (skin is our largest sex organ), different ways of stroking your genitals, the atmosphere in which you feel most comfortable and relaxed, and the things you like to think about (our brains play a large role in our sexuality!). You may also find it easier to enjoy giving yourself sexual pleasure if you try not to focus on orgasm as the goal of masturbating. Many people find it difficult to orgasm under pressure. You can supplement your techniques with information from human sexuality books at the Public Library or websites such as the following: www.puberty101.com.

I masturbate 3 times a day. Will that affect my puberty? I am 14 years old. And i am really short. Is that the reason?

There certainly are many stories out there about how masturbating effects our bodies. Most of these stories are false and were created to discourage people from stimulating themselves sexually because of cultural taboos surrounding sexuality. Taboos about masturbating exist in many cultures and religions in which sex was not seen as a natural or good thing. Masturbating is a great and safe way to get to know your body and receive sexual pleasure. So long as it does not get in the way of you doing other things, there is no problem in masturbating more than once a day.

Masturbating does not affect your growth. This is one of those stories. How tall people can grow is decided by their genetic make-up. This is determined when a sperm fertilizes an egg. Once babies are born, their environment influences how much of their genetic potential they achieve. In the case of growth, things like the kind and amount of food you get would influence whether you grow as tall as your genes say you can.

du u guys noe if u masterbate, does that stop your penis/vagina from growing???

There are a lot of myths about masturbation out there and none of them are true! Masturbation is normal and healthy, and a great way to learn more about your body and and discover what your body likes sexually. If you are feeling pain or discomfort while masturbating, this may be a signal from your body that you are being too rough or need to use some lubricant.

Is masturbation bad?

No, masturbating is not bad for guys or girls. It is perfectly natural. Masturbation is the physical stimulation of the penis or clitoris/vagina, which can often lead to orgasm. Actually, masturbation can be a great way to explore your own sexuality - find out what you like, how you like to be touched. And it's safe too! You can't give yourself an STI or get pregnant!!

Is it possible to masturbate too much?

We all agree here at Condomania that unless masturbating is interfering with your life and is done in inappropriate places, one cannot masturbate too much. So that is good news! Enjoy!

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Masturbation from Guys' perspective

I want to no what differant ways guys can masterbate.

Masturbation is a healthy way to learn more about your body and what you like and don’t like. There are lots of different ways that boys and men masturbate. That said, just because there are lots of different ways to masturbate doesn’t mean that each way works for all guys. The best way to figure out what you like is to experiment: try out different pressures, rhythms, and speeds to see what feels good to you. Many people also like to use their minds – for example, by thinking of things they find sexually arousing - to increase their sexual pleasure during masturbation.

well ive been jacking for like 5 years and my cock bended back and i only started using soap like 2 years ago and my skin on the back is really irritated and flakey.

Irritated skin is one of your body's ways of telling you that something's not quite right and needs your attention. We can't say over email why the skin on your penis is irritated. The only way to get a sound answer on what's going on is to visit your doctor for a check up. Youth Clinics are a great place to get help with concerns such as this.

In the meantime, it sounds like the soap is irritating your skin. It could be that it is removing too much of the natural oils from your body. You should stop using the soap as a lubricant and switch to a non-coloured, non-scented oil designed for use on skin. It may also be wise to take a break from masturbating for a week or so to give the skin a chance to repair itself.

What happens if you masturbate everyday? Is there any danger? Will it lower my sperm count?

There is some good news for you - it is perfectly healthy to masturbate every day. In fact, it is good for you! And it's safe, you can't catch a disease from yourself, or get yourself pregnant.

I just started to masterbate rite before i go to bed almost every night and i was wundering what are the diffrent ways a guy can masterbate?

Masturbation means giving oneself sexual pleasure. Masturbating is a great way to get to know your body and to discover what makes you feel good. There's no one way to masturbate. Everyone masturbates differently because we're each unique and have our own likes and dislikes. Discovering what you like takes patience. You may want to vary the kinds of touch, pressure, rhythm, etc. Also, you may find it interesting to know that your skin is your largest erogenous zone and your mind plays an active role in sexual arousal.

I am a 11 year old boy and I hear my friends talking about masturbating all the time.........and I have no idea how to do it.....So could u plz tell me a healthy way to masturbate.

It's really cool that you're asking this question because having an open attitude is the first step to healthy sexuality! Masturbation is a normal and healthy way to express your sexuality and to get to know your body better, including what kind of sexual stimulation you like and don't like. Masturbation means giving yourself sexual pleasure. Because everyone is different, no one person masturbates the same way as another. Boys and men often explore their bodies by stroking touching their penis, their scrotum, and the skin all over their body. You may want to try finding a place you feel comfortable and relaxed, thinking about things arouse you, and see what kinds of touches you like.

These days, I am horny like every minute and I gotta touch my penis very often, not only I have to masturbate everyday and I masturbate few times a day, I know it's alot, but I just cant resist. Why is that?

Although intensity and frequency may differ from person to person, each of us is a sexual being and has sexual desires. This is just part of being human.

During puberty, there is an increase in the level of hormones in your body which may increase your sexual desire or even lead to a feeling of sexual frustration. It's natural to want to release these feelings. And masturbation - so long as it is a private activity and doesn't get in the way of living your life - is a healthy and normal way to experience sexual pleasure and get to know your body.

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Masturbation from a Girls' perspective

I masterbated last night. When I got up to take a shower I saw blood. After I took a shower t I sat down in front of a mirror to check out my vagina. When I contracted my vagina blood expelled out. Throughout the night I bled. My period is not due til January 30, 2005. I had slight cramps. I only used one finger. Could I have torn my hymen? I talked to a nurse and she said, that is unlikely. She told me my cycle might have changed on me when I was masterbating. I noticed that I saw a discharge a couple of days ago which sometime signifies that my cycle may be coming on, but I always cramp when my cycle comes on. I am a virgin. She said, if 10 days pass by and I am still bleeding is to come in for an exam. Can you please help me?

It sounds like you’re doing a great job of looking out for your health! Noticing changes, checking in with health professionals, and seeking out more information are all important skills for taking care of your body.

It’s very common for young women to experience changes in their menstrual cycle. This is because their hormones are fluctuating which can cause periods to come late or early, more cramping or less, etc. Stress and changes in diet or exercise can also affect women’s menstrual cycle. Some women also find that they “spot” – meaning they bleed a little bit – between periods. Spotting is affected by hormones.

Most likely your period came early and it was just a coincidence that it came the morning after you masturbated. A coincidence means that two events happen at about the same time but one does not cause the other. It is possible that you stretch or tore your hymen while masturbating. However, this would produce only a small amount of blood.

We think it’s a good idea to follow the nurse’s advice. Mark down the day you first noticed the bleeding on your calendar. If the bleeding hasn’t stopped in 10 days, visit your school nurse or local youth clinic. They’ll be able to help figure out what’s going on. If you’re still concerned about the bleeding, it’s okay to get a second opinion from another health professional before the 10 days pass.

i tried masturbating but i don't feel much down there. i know the clitoris is suppose to provide sexual pleasure but i don't feel any (i might be wrong since I don't exactly know where the clitoris is). is there something wrong with my body? im worried since i don't feel aroused from touching myself. thanks.

There are lots of possible reasons why you may not be feeling sexually aroused when masturbating. Most likely, there is nothing wrong with your body. If you are quite concerned, you may want to visit your local Youth Clinic and talk this over with one of the nurses there. Before doing that you may want to try a few of these suggestions.

It sounds like you aren't very familiar with your genitals and sexual response cycle. And, that's okay...This means that you have an opportunity to learn something new! There are lots of great books out there about the human body. You may find it useful to read up on the structure of the vagina and the vulva, and what happens in the body as it moves from sexual arousal to climax. Once you know what the female body generally looks like, you have the opportunity to do some "comparative research". If you find a small hand-held mirror you can take a look at your vulva to see the different parts, including the clitoris. It's perfectly normal and healthy to want to see what your body looks like...And women need a bit more help with this than men as their genitals are more hidden.

Once you get a sense of the different parts of your body, you may want to make sure you're in the right mood to masturbate. If you're not feeling sexually aroused or are overly stressed out about other things, it may not feel good to stimulate your genitals. Each of us is very unique in what we like when we masturbate - and some people just don't enjoy masturbating. Different things arouse different people. Take some time to think about the kinds of thoughts and images that you find sexually arousing. The brain is the number one sex organ!

You may find that your body responds quicker if you feel comfortable and relaxed. Think about what kinds of things you can do to create a nice environment: a hot bath, candles, dim lights, music, etc. If you're feeling nervous about touching your body or under pressure to react in a certain way, your mind may be more focused on that which may put the damper on your body's response.

It may help if you think of masturbating as an opportunity to experiment and discover the places and ways your body likes to be touched. A final suggestion is to use a bit of water-based lubricant to keep things slippery. If the vulva and vagina are too dry, the friction created during masturbation can feel unpleasant.

Hey, Im a girl and I was just wondering, How do I masterbate?

Masturbation - touching your own body for sexual pleasure - is a healthy way to get to know your body and to discover what you find sexually stimulating. There really are no formulas for how to masturbate. Each of us is a unique being with unique likes and dislikes. And, what we like can change from moment to moment; it is connected to our mood, the make-up of our body (for example, the areas that are sensitive on our bodies differ from person to person), what's available for us to use, etc. The best way to find out how to masturbate is to do it! As you feel your way around your body, you'll figure out what you like and don't like. Many people fantasize - sexually stimulating thoughts - while masturbating. This is also healthy and normal. Remember these are your thoughts not your actions!

I've masterbated a few times. Then I got really into it once. After I calmed down, i only did it once a week. but i started noticing that my lip had grew..pointier. is this a side effect of masterbation?

There are a lot of myths about masturbation and none of them are true! Masturbating is a great way to get to know your body better and to figure out what you like and don't like. Unless your masturbating causes pain or interferes with your everyday activities, it shouldn't affect your body's growth or health. So, these changes you've noticed in your lips are just a coincidence. If you are very concerned about the changes in the shape of your lips, I would suggest that you visit your local Youth Clinic for a medical opinion.

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